There are plenty of reasons that men or women for that matter have affairs. Not every affair is because of some imagined mid-life crisis and the reasons men have affairs are usually pretty simple. Let’s get into detail the reasons for the affair. You may be surprised at some of the reasons men have for having an an affair.
Men are creatures of ego and an affair can stroke his ego. Men are nowhere near as confident as they outwardly appear and they need boosts in their confidence as much as women do. Men like to feel wanted and loved and if their spouse isn’t giving them that then they will turn to a woman who does. That doesn’t necessarily mean that they don’t love their wife or that their wife doesn’t love and appreciate them. However everyday life can leave a couple too exhausted make time for each other. The women in the affair will find his jokes funny, think him handsome and boost his confidence all of the time.
For many men there is nothing more exciting that the thrill of the chase. That thrill doesn’t end just because someone got married, for some guy it’s part of their nature and find monogamy difficult. These guys get a rush from pursuing and finally catching a woman if you will and that is a big part of the appeal. At the same time they like secrecy and danger that is associated with having an affair. The thrill of maybe getting caught is every bit as appealing as the sex. It’s the drama they are addicted to as much as the sexual conquest.
The Grass is Greener
This is one of the more common reasons that men have affairs. Another woman who is attractive and that finds him interesting, is concerned with her appearance and doesn’t complain about toilet seats or toothpaste caps. A relationship that looks like it is hassle free where a man can just relax and enjoy being with a woman without all of the family and relationship trappings has its appeal. If things are rocky at home, men may look for a stress free environment where no one approaches them with a “honey do” list.
These are just a couple of reasons that people have affairs but these tend to be the most common. Affairs don’t have to be the end of your relationship it can just be a getaway from the hassles of everyday life.
Should you have an affair? That is a question that many married people ask themselves at various times throughout their marriage. If it hasn’t happened to you yet that’s fine but don’t be surprised when these thoughts cross your mind. There are lots of reasons people decide to have affairs here is a look at the most common ones:
They were cheated on by their spouse and want revenge
Their sex life is non-existent or it has become boring
They don’t love their partner anymore but there are kids involved and divorce isn’t an option right now
The marriage is just in name only
Their spouse doesn’t love them or isn’t interested in them
Do any of these reasons ring true for you? Most people don’t just wake up one morning determined to have an affair but marital issues come up and suddenly your outlook changes. Any or all of these reasons could be the driving force behind your desire to have an affair. The why is just as important as your decision to go ahead and have the affair or not.
Should You Have an Affair?
The answer is unequivocally yes, yes you should have an affair. However there’s a need to clarify that answer. You deserve to be as happy and fulfilled as the next person and life is short so embrace happiness wherever you can find it. For many people one person cannot fulfill all of their needs. You deserve someone in your life who ignites your passion and gets your blood boiling. The affair should make you feel whole and satisfied, not guilty.
Getting the Affair Started
Before you jump into bed with anyone you should consider who you are going to have an affair with. You need someone that understands what you need and what your current living situation is. They need to make you happy but don’t lead anyone on at the same time. If you have no intention of ever leaving your family then don’t lead anyone to believe that you will. Make sure that everyone knows upfront exactly what the situation is and they are content with that. There are all kinds of different websites where people can meet to have a no-strings attached affair.
The choice to have an affair is not one that you should make lightly, while it is incredibly exciting there are consequences to getting caught. Be cautious and go into the situation with your eyes open.